What Can Change in Three Years? More Than You Think.

A couple of years ago, I shared a before-and-after of my longest-standing client, Beanie.

At the time, it already felt like one hell of a transformation. The first photo was from when we started working together.

Beanie was a newly divorced single mom of six. She weighed 245 pounds. She was burned out from her career as a massage therapist, overwhelmed by life, and struggling to see much of a future for herself.

Her words back then? Toxic. Angry. Unworthy.

She had reached a point where she was ready to give up on life.

If you had shown that version of Beanie a picture of the woman she would become a few years later, I don't know that she would have believed you.

Because here's what happened next.

Her entire life started changing.

Beanie lost 100 pounds. She started traveling, and I don't mean taking a weekend trip somewhere nearby.

Costa Rica. Tulum. Japan. Galápagos. Greece.

She started experiencing a world that, at one point in her life, probably felt completely out of reach. But honestly, those aren't even the changes I'm most proud of.

I've watched Beanie become more present. I've watched her learn how to respond differently when life gets hard. I've watched her change the way she sees herself.

I've watched her teach her children about health, personal growth, and what it looks like to break cycles instead of simply handing them down to the next generation.

I've watched her become more peaceful, more confident, more willing to trust herself, and I've watched her start to understand something she couldn't see when we first met: She is worthy of building a life she actually wants.

And recently, I got to watch her take another huge step.

She started her own business.

This one hits differently for me. Because when Beanie and I first started working together, she was completely burned out from massage therapy.

Now? She's returning to it, but she's not returning as the same woman.

She's building her own massage therapy business, on her terms, with a bigger vision of bringing together two things that have become incredibly meaningful to her: Bodywork and mindset work.

She's taking her skills as a massage therapist, everything she's learned through her own personal growth, and the person she's become through this process and asking:

How can I use all of this to help someone else? That's freaking cool. And I think there's a really important lesson in that.

Sometimes you don't hate the thing. You hate who you had to be while doing it.

We assume that when something burns us out, we need to walk away from it forever. Sometimes we do, but sometimes the problem isn't necessarily the work.

It's the boundaries we didn't have. The way we overextended ourselves. The pressure we put on ourselves. The beliefs we carried into the room. The version of us trying to do the work while also carrying everything else.

Beanie didn't just return to massage therapy. She returned to it as a different woman. She's creating something that actually reflects who she is now, and to me, THAT is what transformation looks like.

Real transformation usually isn't one giant breakthrough.

We love the before-and-after picture because it's easy to understand.

Here's where I was. Here's where I am. Look at the difference. But after working with Beanie for years, I can tell you that the real story happened in the space between those pictures.

It happened in hundreds of ordinary decisions nobody saw. The days she showed up when she didn't feel like it. The conversations where we caught an old pattern. The moments she reacted differently than she would have a year earlier. The boundaries. The uncomfortable realizations. The setbacks. The times something triggered the shit out of her and she had to decide what she was going to do with it.

The moments she chose herself.

Again. And again. And again.

There wasn't one magical breakthrough where suddenly everything was fixed. She practiced becoming this woman. That's the part people don't see when they look at someone's transformation.

At first, sometimes the goal is just to survive.

When you're overwhelmed, anxious, burned out, or deeply unhappy with yourself, you're usually not sitting around dreaming about the incredible business you're going to build three years from now.

You're trying to get through Tuesday. You're trying to stop spiraling. You're trying to make a decision without asking six people what they think. You're trying to stop beating the shit out of yourself internally. You're trying to believe that maybe things could actually get better. That's enough.

Because something interesting starts happening when you do this work long enough.

You stop spending all of your energy trying to survive yourself. And suddenly there's space.

Space to dream, to travel, to try something new, to change your mind, to ask a question you may not have had the capacity to ask before:

What do I actually want my life to look like?

That's the question Beanie gets to answer now. And it's a very different question from the ones she was asking when we met.

This is why her story means so much to me.

Beanie is the longest-standing client I've ever worked with. So I've had a front-row seat to all of it. Not just the exciting parts that make good Instagram posts.

I've seen the messy middle. I've watched her struggle. I've watched old patterns show back up. I've watched her get frustrated. I've watched her have breakthroughs and then discover there was another layer underneath them.

And I've watched her keep going.

That's why when I see her building this business now, I'm not just excited because one of my clients became an entrepreneur.

I'm looking at the woman who once couldn't imagine the life she has today, and now she's creating what's next. That's a completely different kind of before and after.

Maybe you don't need to know exactly what your three-years-from-now story looks like yet.

Maybe the better question is:

What would happen if you finally stopped abandoning the person you could become?

If you're tired of knowing what you should do but still finding yourself stuck in the same patterns, this is the work I help women do.

Learning to regulate before you react. Trust yourself instead of constantly second-guessing. Set boundaries without drowning in guilt. Stop letting anxiety run your relationships and your decisions.

And start building a life that actually feels like yours.

If you're ready to see what could change for you, click here to set up a call so we can chat and learn more about working with me.

Three years from now is coming either way. You might as well see who you can become by then.